Sit there for a minute and identify how many times you have been offended, insulted or slighted recently. If the list is more than a very few times you are riding the victim train.
Your boarding pass is the litany of instances you recognize as being against you. The more you embrace the things, big and small that get under your skin the further the train will go.
The syndrome applies to people of all walks, genders, and ages. Politicians, colleagues, coworkers and even family.
Victimhood requires a myopic distorted view of reality. Victims believe that the world is out to get them or at the least disrespect them. They ignore the blessing and good all around them, instead judging the most innocent act as an affront. Not everything is about the victim.
May I say that most victims suffer from a form of narcissism. Without hitting too heavily, a narcissist " thinks the world revolves around them" and they keep score.
A lack of praise, recognition and accolades register prominently with victims. Coupled with the opposite of low self-esteem their antenna is always up and actively searching for slights.
It is a relationship killer in most cases. The complaints of real or perceived issues sucks the life out of the room. Without justification the litany is hollow and whiny. There is no way to speak truth or convince them that their perspective is defective or off the mark. No matter of explaining or taking a more nuanced position will put the offense in a better light or deflate any intentionality.
Victims force their own exile from the ones who would otherwise entertain and support them.
Wokesters are victims. They proport to be looking out for others who are triggered or offended by this that or the other thing. If fact, they themselves are coming from their own victimhood. In some cases, this is a learned behavior that is the product of progressive leftist propaganda mills of the universities and colleges. Many woke edicts or attempts at cancelation elicit a response of “WTF – Get a life.”
Only a victim can fix a victim. It will take a massive introspective dive, a self-searching in the light of day. Help can be provided by an outside party who has the patience to hold their hand, pat them on the head and kick their ass when appropriate. Rescuing a woke victim, as exampled by the heiress who claimed that her college education created the victim in her and turned her against our country. By her admission it took months of deprogramming to set her straight. She is thankful that her family supported her in the process. Of course, professional help is not available to everyone.
All aboard. Next stop Downers Ville.
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